Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Controlling Anger

Everyone gets angry. From time to time, there will be things in life that just get under our skin. Think about when you are sitting in traffic – how often does this make you angry? Do you yell expletives in your car at the offending driver? Do you toot your horn? Do you go so far as to actually engage the person who has “done you wrong”? We all get angry, but we cannot afford to let it be an emotion that comes easy to us. Anger doesn't make us feel good, so why waste your time with it? Here are some reasons why getting angry only harms you and your emotional well-being.

1.       You never make good decisions when you are angry
How often are you likely to come up with a great idea, solve a problem, and make a good decision when you are angry? It doesn't happen. When we are angry, our minds are solely focused on the issue that has made us angry, which then often promotes irrational behaviour.

2.       Anger gets you into trouble
People with major anger management issues are often getting in to trouble, as they are letting their anger control their decision making. While you are calm, you probably won’t hit your jerk of a boss (even if you think he deserves it). But for some people, when guided by anger they do end up doing stupid things like assaulting people.

3.       Regret often stems from anger
Can you recall a time when you said or did something that you now regret; which only happened because you were angry at the time? We might say hurtful things when we are angry that we don’t really mean. The anger within us is looking for an outlet by trying to hurt someone else; often someone we care about. It may be something minor, or it may be a significant event which ends a relationship.

The lessons to be learnt from anger are that it is a damaging emotion to you and potentially to those around you, depending on how you behave when you are angry. Anger should not be anybody’s controlling emotion. If you feel yourself getting worked up, cool off before saying or doing anything. Learn to control angry emotions – if you are easily worked up you may need some professional help to cope with anger management. A good place to start is reading this article over at Tiny Buddha. Don’t let little things stir you up so easily. Acknowledge to yourself that you are annoyed by something/someone, but try not to react in a negative way. The key message is anger gets you nowhere, and only does harm, never any good. Anger is the most useless emotion, so don’t waste your time being angry!

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